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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow, no idea why people are being so mean about this question.  Sounds like a very legitimate issue to me.

OP, losing a teleworking day and adding a lot of unpredictable evening commitments - plus logging back on at night - is a HUGE change.  Especially for no more money!  Did you guys talk about this together before he decided to take the promotion?  I agree with the PP above who laid out the three options - a less time consuming job for DH; you take up slack; or you hire out.[/quote]

OP here.  It's a little more money- $10k, actually. If it matters (and I don't think it does, b/c we have all joint accounts), he now makes $25k more than I do.

It's a long story, but the gist is that DH had been doing this job in an acting capacity for a year prior to just getting the promotion.  So, he'd been doing the extra hours, etc. but for no additional pay already. He didn't have a choice, per se- the director retired and they told him he was acting.  The difference before was then he was doing his old job plus the director's job, which is what we thought contributed to him having to do work at home. Now, he's fully realizing how much work his old boss actually was doing, which I suppose is on him for not really understanding what goes into it!

As I said, I'm lucky my job has been so flexible, but at some point, I'm afraid they will start pushing back.  If that happens, I guess it'll be time to find a new job or reevaluate things in general. What makes it less predictable is that DS will be fine for awhile, and then get sick in spurts.

But, I'm grateful that his issues are not too debilitating and that I have some flexibility.  Really, I am.[/quote]

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