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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Different people have different ideas about exactly where the line is between appropriate and inappropriate.  My father walked about the house naked until after I had moved out of the house.  I assume he still does, but he doesn't when I visit.  It is what had been done in his house growing up.  There was never anything sexual about it.  But I can guarantee you that most people would think it was highly inappropriate for a young girl to grow up around this.

I think for this man who was not a part of your nuclear family that you had grown up with to behave as he did with a young girl (mostly naked in bed with you) would be considered inappropriate by an even higher percentage of the population than my father's nakedness.  But, it is still more of an "appearance of impropriety" than anything clearly wrong happening (assuming you having blocked out the memories).  There is some possibility he was "grooming" you, and also some possibility he just didn't see the problem with it.  You have mentioned he is socially inept and has problems with boundaries.

I think it might be good to reach some sort of peace with your parents over this, but you know better than I whether or not peace would be the result or if it would just stir the pot.  If it were me, and I decided to address it, I'd probably start out by letting them know you understand better now that you are an adult and thanking them for doing what they felt they should to protect you.  Then explain that you have no memory of anything sexual, and your adult assessment of the situation is what while he really blew it in terms of appropriate boundaries, you don't believe his intent was sexual or otherwise inappropriate.  Invite them to share information they may have that you don't (or at least don't remember).  Then proceed from there as seems appropriate based on what they share.  For your sake, I hope they won't have anything shocking to share with you, and also that they will at least be able to "agree to disagree" and let this fade into the past.[/quote]

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