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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here, the assignment book has check-boxes for each assignment.

Re internalizing his responsibility: I'm glad to hear my personal viewpoint reiterated but the problem is my husband can't tolerate leaving him to possibly fail.  It's possible DS would find his inner student if we just left him to his own devices, however when we have done that experimentally in the past, DS got a string of C's and D's.  (Despite doing very well on tests.)

In addition, DH feels that when teachers report undone homework or projects, or give failing grades it is a parental failing not to intervene with the kid in some way (lecturing, consequences, etc.)  DH travels a lot so he finds fault with me if I don't keep on DS's case.

Another complication is that if there is an assignment to be done on the computer, DS will appear to be working but instead will be web-surfing.  Blocking unrelated websites is difficult and DS will still surf what he is left with, and continue to waste time.
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Books for you and your DH:

[u]The Blessing of a B Minus[/u], by Wendy Mogel

[u]Mindset[/u], by Carol Dweck

You really need to let your son assume full responsibility and if that entails some bad grades, that is how it is.  He needs to be holding the steering wheel here.

I also recommend the PEP class, Thriving with Teens.

[u]How Children Succeed[/u], by Paul Tough[/quote]

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