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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This has very little to do with money and a lot to do with your husband's personality. He's controlling.[/quote]

Or he's anxious which means he is fighting to feel in control of himself. Feeling in control of how the money is spent may reduce his anxiety. His intention is not to control another person, but to act in ways that reduce his own feelings of being out of control.[/quote]

OP here again, thanks for your thoughtfulness, all, and this especially really hits home for me. These issues always pop up w more intensity during changing and challenging times, which we're truly in the throws of right now. I'm taking out $50 to spend on myself each week which will likely cover my two coffees and one or two Pret lunches. On the flip side of his reaction to these things, I think longer about buying new clothes, etc, which had helped pad our bank account, and although its a bit selfish, I worry less about our future bc he's so caught up in it. I just feel very safe knowing he has his eye on the ball. So everything has a flip side.[/quote]

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