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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't need to manipulate my DD.  She sees how Mom behaves.  She is 12 years old, and she is not stupid.  Also, y'all are right she is not "entitled" to a child - perfect or not.  I just don't feel that it would be right, given what I have observed in the course of the marriage, to bring another child into what is essentially a dysfunctional family dynamic.  There is nothing wrong with that view.  DW has a choice - therapy or no.  If no, forget ever having another child.  Pretty fair, I think.  
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actually, you have a choice too OP,  therapy might be more enticing if you don't make the issue black and white and triangulate your wife away from you and your daughter. Why don't you jump into therapy yourself-FAMILY therapy.

I am wondering if this really is about your wife and her desire for a kid, or if this is about whether or not you are on your wife's side.  Are you a team? Do you fight for her? Do you try to protect her?  From the way you write, you are just so eager to blast her and make her the scapegoat for the family problems.  Did you consider that her increasingly histrionic fits might be a reaction to your increasing coldness, your judgements, your pushing her away?  Her wanting a baby might be the only way she feels she can stay connected to you.  [/quote]

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