Reply to Grandparent Funeral

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Grandparent Funeral - Out of Country"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If it means not paying your mortgage or daycare payment then no he shouldn't go. If it means you don't get to take a vacation next year then he goes.

Saying good bye to someone in advance isn't the same as laying them to rest. Lots of people need the chance to do both for closure. It's important to keep in mind people grieve differently, so while you didn't need to go to your grandfathers funeral you DH may feel strongly that he needs to go to say goodbye, find peace etc.  [/quote]

+1
And, as PPs have observed, to share memories of the deceased with extended family (who may be making their own sacrifices to be there.)

All of my late husband's family is in Europe.  I can't imagine having been anything but supportive of him for a trip to a grandparent's funeral. Especially if we could afford it without sacrificing the basics.  Hell, i can't imagine not moving heaven and earth to have his DD attend his grandmother's funeral even now that he's not here to force the issue.  I borrowed $$ from my BIL to attend my brother's funeral after his unexpected death.  I asked for an advance against my leave to attend my best friend's sister's funeral. My whole family convened for my father's funeral, the only missing members were the second cousins who live in Australia. And they Skyped us with condolences and shared happy memories.

People have different expectations and traditions relating to family funerals.   If I were you, I would honor my husband's wishes without question so long as they don't implicate mortgage, childcare and similar critical expenses. 
[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics