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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I find this interesting and am going to throw out a different perspective. I was THAT student. I had an "affair" with my professor for nearly 8 months. It was a combination of many hings, the power trip, the attraction to the person of authrotiy, he was a "rockstar" professor in that people waited for months to get into one of his classes, he was cocky as hell but it was admittedly a turn on to me at the time not even 21.
On top of all that, he was really good looking in a bad boy kind of way, like a frat boy who never grew up but one that was wickedly smart. So it was almost toxic, lots of girls in his class had crushes.
It was classic I stayed after one day to go over a paper that I didn't on a grade of and we spent about 40 mins rehashing it. He had me go back the next morning before class to help me correct it for him to review again. I was so grateful that i instinctively went to give him a hug to say thanks and it was like that 20 seconds just suspended in mid air. Neither of us moved away. I honestly this many years later do not know who really initiated the kiss. It was a strong magical moment. I knew it was wrong but neither of us stopped.

We met for drinks off campus a few nights later ended up going back to his house and thus begun our steamy affair. He was in the middle of a divorce and his ex wife was no longer living there. I confided in my 2 best friends but we kept it under wraps. Went away skiing a few times and had a few getaways. I fell hard for him. VERY hard. He loved me but I sense it was more lust and feeding his big ego. I don't think for a minute he thought there was a future whereas I briefly was naieve enough to think there might be. It went on for several months but when I saw there was no future, it was too painful to stay in it just for the sex (which was damn good).

I met someone else who started to take my attention away so it made it easier to make the break. We had a few more encounters afterwards but eventually we went back to being professor and student. On my campus it was not forbidden. He was 34. A very youthful 34 year old and highly accomplished. If it were my own D today, I wouldn't like it but I know from first hand experience how these things can happen so quickly and so powerfully. [/quote]
[b]I don't see any new perspective at all. We all understand how the underling falls under the spell. [/quote][/b]

I think PP is offering us the perspective as a student and not as a speculative parent. I understand full well where she is coming from and appreciate the honest account. I would have a very hard time with it personally but I do understand how the lure of power and control can be like an intoxicating drug particularly to a young college kid.[/quote]
Yes, we all get that.  Remarkably what people don't see is that this is precisely why the behavior is unethical on the professor's (or President's) part to prey on girls in some underling position.  [/quote]

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