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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I find this interesting and am going to throw out a different perspective. I was THAT student. I had an "affair" with my professor for nearly 8 months. It was a combination of many hings, the power trip, the attraction to the person of authrotiy, he was a "rockstar" professor in that people waited for months to get into one of his classes, he was cocky as hell but it was admittedly a turn on to me at the time not even 21.
On top of all that, he was really good looking in a bad boy kind of way, like a frat boy who never grew up but one that was wickedly smart. So it was almost toxic, lots of girls in his class had crushes.
It was classic I stayed after one day to go over a paper that I didn't on a grade of and we spent about 40 mins rehashing it. He had me go back the next morning before class to help me correct it for him to review again. I was so grateful that i instinctively went to give him a hug to say thanks and it was like that 20 seconds just suspended in mid air. Neither of us moved away. I honestly this many years later do not know who really initiated the kiss. It was a strong magical moment. I knew it was wrong but neither of us stopped.

We met for drinks off campus a few nights later ended up going back to his house and thus begun our steamy affair. He was in the middle of a divorce and his ex wife was no longer living there. I confided in my 2 best friends but we kept it under wraps. Went away skiing a few times and had a few getaways. I fell hard for him. VERY hard. He loved me but I sense it was more lust and feeding his big ego. I don't think for a minute he thought there was a future whereas I briefly was naieve enough to think there might be. It went on for several months but when I saw there was no future, it was too painful to stay in it just for the sex (which was damn good).

I met someone else who started to take my attention away so it made it easier to make the break. We had a few more encounters afterwards but eventually we went back to being professor and student. On my campus it was not forbidden. He was 34. A very youthful 34 year old and highly accomplished. If it were my own D today, I wouldn't like it but I know from first hand experience how these things can happen so quickly and so powerfully. [/quote]
[b]I don't see any new perspective at all. We all understand how the underling falls under the spell. [/quote][/b]

I think PP is offering us the perspective as a student and not as a speculative parent. I understand full well where she is coming from and appreciate the honest account. I would have a very hard time with it personally but I do understand how the lure of power and control can be like an intoxicating drug particularly to a young college kid.[/quote]

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