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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm floored. Good grief, just let them stay and be gracious to the extent it's possible. Though you probably already blew it by letting them know they're not welcome. Perhaps you could have offered the place while you are away? (I'm guessing they don't especially enjoy being with you either) Or, for the week they come, there could be a three day weekend that you and your family go away for three days or something? But I think you'd have been better off sucking it up. Suggesting a camp for their son, maybe. Or just arranging to be working out of the house during the day so your time home is really limited. Eat meals out, or work out a shared cooking schedule.[/quote] You clearly have no idea what it's like to have an in-law like this. I do. And I can sympathize with OP completely on every issue, including the DH who hesitates to get involved because he hates conflict with his sister. (Let me guess: it's his YOUNGER sister, right?) OP, I've been married for 12 years and I can say is, I wish I had nipped this in the bud earlier. People like this do not understand or respect boundaries, and being "nice" in the traditional way will get YOU trampled on. The PPs who have said to make this your husband's problem too, are correct. I would inform him now that if they are coming and staying for a week, then he will need to take vacation for the ENTIRE WEEK and plan to entertain them EVERY DAY. He CANNOT run off to the office and hide, which believe me, is what many DHs will try to do in this situation. (And who can blame him? The dirty truth that he cannot admit is that he doesn't really like his sister either!) Stand your ground. I wish you luck with this, and please keep us posted. I need to hear encouragement on this issue too. I surrendered Thanksgiving to a similar relative in my DH's family years ago, and I have dreaded it ever since![/quote]
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