Reply to Disagreement between Spouse on Public vs Private

Forum Index » Private & Independent Schools

Reply to "Disagreement between Spouse on Public vs Private"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There's a valid point in the bickering here, which is that private school may not be a great idea if it comes at the cost of retirement and college savings. In that case, it would make sense for a spouse to go back to work. It's been said here a million times: you want to retire before you're 80, and you want to be able to afford the best colleges for your child, and none of this will happen if private school makes you completely strapped for money.[/quote]

But I don't want to be able to afford the best colleges for my child. I'm not even sure there is such a thing as "the best colleges". Or, alternatively, part of what makes them "the best colleges" for my child is that I am able to afford them.[/quote]

Not planning to save for "best" college.  If we can cover state college I'm happy and any difference in cost for what kid does will need to come from scholarships, student loans, and work study etc.

We had a public/private disagreement and the only thing that brought us to agreement was trying public school. To be fair, one child was totally fine in public school. The other child, did not do well at our public school.  I had to let things play out until it was obvious it wasn't going to get better for one child without big changes of some sort.

If you are concerned about moving to private later there are entry point grades for the ones that are K-12 and there are privates that start in 3rd grade or middle school.  You could also pick a school that isn't as competive as the big 3 and pay special attention to how new kids are integrated into the school.  At some places kids are very excited to see someone new because it is small versus being entrenched in cliques because they have gone to classes together for awhile.

Last piece of advice is to consider that there could be many possible paths to getting what you believe is needed for your child. Could someone move to a higher paying job or pickup hours to help pay for private school or conversely could someone decrease hours or be in a situation where they had more time to help bridge any gaps you see happening in your public school for your child  (I.e. more academic enrichment, being more involved to help create a sense of community for your kids, more art or music). Is homeschooling an option?  Is renting in a different public school cluster an option?  Could you just opt for private for middle school or just high school or just to help get your child through a rough patch?  We considered lots of options and we will re-evaluate at certain points if private continues to remain the best option for our children.
[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics