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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My family has been burned TOO MANY times by people speculating and gossiping and playing telephone with information that is not reliable, or is exaggerated.

If I were you I'd tell your brother that you heard it and it's a possibility, but acknowledge that in a family so screwed up, it's also likely this is bad or tainted info.

Since dad is unlikely to be a willing participating in a paternity test, is it possible for the two of you to be tested to see if you are "full" siblings? If so, propose this if he is interested. It will indicate a "we're in this together" vibe.

I would not share this as a "this is the truth!" story but rather, "I heard this, it's disturbing, do you want to pursue the truth? If so, I'm here with you all the way." [/quote]

I like this. Good luck, OP. It sounds like you and your brother had a tough childhood and I think it's right that you want to stop keeping secrets.[/quote]

I also think this is the best idea.  And a genetic test would be the easiest way to confirm it - pretty easy since you are either 50% related by blood or 100%.  He could feel a great relief to know that his shitty ass dad wasn't really his.  It can let him dream that had he  had his real dad, life would have been different, and that may be comforting, rather than thinking he just has a dad who doesn't like him.[/quote]

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