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[quote=Anonymous]My grandmother knew until she was middle-aged that her mother had divorced and remarried after a very brief first marriage during which my grandmother was conceived.  She did not know that the man who raised her was not her father.  She did not know that she had a different biological father than her sisters did.  She only found out when she finally needed a copy of her birth certificate to get a passport.  But when she did finally find out, she also learned that her sisters had always known.  The whole family had decided to keep it a secret from her supposedly to spare her feelings.  But the unintended consequence was that she always felt like a bit of an outsider in her own family... and she just didn't know why.  She felt very bad that she never knew the truth about her fathers until both of them were long dead.  She felt very bad that the family had kept a secret from her.

Some people here are saying, what is the point in telling your brother?  Well, one of the points is so that he won't resent you if/when he finds out some other way.  It is not healthy to keep family secrets.  He may not like the truth but he has a right to know.  If no one knew, that would be another matter.  But he has a right to know what the rest of the family knows about his background.[/quote]

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