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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]sh*t. I could have written this.

Each day I felt I am just playing saint in order to meet other people's expectation of me. Sometimes I felt that I have to give up the notion of personal happiness for the sake of kids. [/quote]

It's called being an adult. Most responsible people do this.[/quote]

Hmm. I dont know- this does not sound right.

Being an adult does mean being responsible.

Being responsible means thinking things through. Really, all the way through, and as many times as it takes for the situation to reveal a solution or approach.

There is no way it could possibly be good MOST of the time to give upon the notion of personal happiness for the sake of the children. In fact, what model is that going to be for those same children later in life?

I am struggling with this notion as well. I am actually more worried about what giving up on personal happiness will do to my daughter. I dont want her to make the kinds of compromises that I may end up making (and Im not at all sure I will be doing that- thus the debate). I dont think SHE should give up on personal happiness for another persons addictions and general inability to cope. I dont know how I am going to tell her the truth about her father- I dont know waht the truth will ultimately be.

So its really much more complicated than calling it "adult" and "responsible" to give up on personal happiness in a marriage for the sake of the kids. They can tell when something is wrong.[/quote]

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