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[quote=Anonymous]I have been in a similar situation with many different friends.

I have been the shoulder to cry on for multiple friends who had affairs and lost the husband, home and children. One who rebuilt her marriage. One who has actually finally after 5 years found a nice guy, rebuilt her life and finally has visitation with her kids.

Infidelity ruins lives, plain and simple.

We tell our kids to pick their friends wisely but we don't follow that same advice..

1) she only told you to get e weight of the information off her shoulders and onto your. That is not a good friend.
2) No good friend tells a person something and expects them to keep that secret from their own spouse. You have NO obligation to NOT tell your H.
3) is is NOT the first time this "good" friend was selfish and you know it. She is selfish, period.

Now what do you do.
1) tell your H and discuss how to handle the weekend and friendship. I would probably suck it up for the weekend but never plan another vacation together.
2) DO NOT TELL HER HuSBAND. (If you find out she is continuing the affair send him an anonymous letter)
3) this can not affect the daughters, they can be friends without you being friends with the mom.
4) if this was a one time thing and she really is a good friend I would not "dump the friendship" but if you truly evaluate your friend and your friendship with her and you see clearly that she is a selfish person I would slowly step away from the friendship. In 6 months you won't even notice that you hardly talk any more.
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