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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DH went back for a PhD at 40. Not because he wanted to further his career, but because he adores going to school/learning and it was on his bucket list. We both work FT and have 2 kids. It took 7y years doing it part time while he worked FT. There were times it was a nightmare - he was exhausted from work/school and I was exhausted from work/doing 99% of the work for the kids/house.

But it is done and neither of us regret it. While it didn't change his career landscape, who knows what doors it will open in the future and he is so happy that he finished his dream. And I would have never stood in the path of his dreams.[/quote]

OP here. This sounds like the reason I would want to go back. It sounds like it worked, but it was really tough on your family. This is really helpful; I completed my MA part time while my DH was working on a political campaign in Chicago, so it didn't impact him daily, but it's true, even if I did a part time program it would impact the family balance.

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I am the PP quoted above. Your DH has to be 110% on board for you to do this if you have kids. He will be the one running kids to all the activities on the weekends, making sure that the kids have clean clothes for school,picking up after school and doing homework/cooking dinner, attending playdates/soccer games/etc alone (and explaining for the 1009734 time where you are and why you can't be there to your kids and the other parents on the sidelines), grocery shopping with kids in tow while you are home writing/studying, cheering you on when you want to quit (and he'd love for you to quit so you'd be home more!),  etc. It really sucked being the one responsible for all of this, but I knew it would end. And it has. :)  Good luck with your decision.[/quote]

I couldn't agree more.  I did it pre kids and pre relationship.  I named my dissertation.  It just sounded better....John and I are going to spend the weekend together.  John and I are having dinner tonight.  Oh, I can't go out with you tonight, John and I have plans.  Yeah...John and I spent A LOT of time together.[/quote]

Ha!  I named my senior thesis in college: Timothy.  Friends knew to ask how Timothy was doing, and I could talk at length about our plans.  I should have named my dissertation, but was dating my now-husband at the time, so didn't want him to get too jealous. ;)[/quote]

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