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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.
19:24, it varies.  His tone is neutral, but he does make me feel bad/ashamed.
One could argue no one "makes" you feel any certain way, but you know what I mean.  It's sort of often- every few months when we're having a talk about something, he'll ask me how I am feeling about my job.  I always say the same thing- I address his concerns, validate my choices, confirm that I am happy, etc.  He just seems bummed out about it.  I ask him what he's thinking- he says he just worries about me and my future, that one day I'll wake up and not be happy (sort of what was touched upon earlier)...

But, its the frequency that bugs me.  How many times do I have to reiterate the same thing?  It's almost like when people say on here how their husband casually mentions losing weight but brings it up all the time-- I get it.  You don't like it.[/quote]

That sucks. I dated a guy once who was the same way. I have a bachelor's in art and when I was just starting out making [i]very[/i] little money, he kept telling me I should just quit my job and be a grunt on the hill because that could actually lead somewhere. Never mind that I liked what I was doing and had ZERO interest in being a hill douchebag. That should have been the big red flag to listen to. He's now married to a very ambitious woman but from what he says they don't seem happy. They have a ton of money that they stress over because they throw it into a huge house in the suburbs and cars.

Nobody here knows your relationship, but I think that any guy who makes you feel shitty about any aspect of yourself isn't worth holding onto. I am married now to a man who makes me feel talented and powerful and if I ever came to him with concerns about my limited earning potential he would never speak about it in such a way as to make me feel ashamed.

Also, just for the record, I think nannying is INCREDIBLY important work. I also think anyone who has a problem with someone else's career when that person is fulfilled and works very hard to do a good job and continually get better is an insecure ass. I think he's probably doing a fair amount of projecting and next time he brings it up you should say, [b]"get back to me when I don't make more than twice as much as you". 
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That is doing exactly what you are saying would make him an insecure ass. So then we would have two insecure asses.[/quote]

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