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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here, thanks. This is all in the works and DH throws off any attempted convo on the topic. 
Ultimately I think he wants to impress his parents, and feels guilty he no longer lives a driving distance away from them or can't see them more.
Anyhow:
*We don't have kids yet.
*When we visit, it's one week, and a mix of spending time with them, good friends and city stuff, often we must "work from home" too. Boils down to 4 days of breakfasts and dinners, on them. We take them out to dinner.
* We fly during high season, as that's when we have off, holidays or summertime. They fly random days when they find low prices, and prefer to stay several weeks.
* On avg we each visit each other once or twice a year. When they visit we are working; unf they don't take vacations where they stay in hotels, so we can't like meet at disneyland or Yellowstone or the beach for a week.

I just wish there was a more fun way to have visits, that didn't leave me feeling so lopsided or odd. It's in real contrast to other family or friend houseguests we have on both sides, and how we act as houseguests anywhere. [/quote]

OP, if they only stayed for a week (or ten days, so you got both weekends), would you feel better about really "hosting" them?  A week once a year is one thing, several weeks is another.  I don't think I'd be comfortable with anyone in my house for that long.  I would want to put the brakes on the weeks-long visits BEFORE having kids...think about your ILs expecting to spend a month of your maternity leave at your house while you do everything for them.  That's the kind of situation you're setting yourself up for.  You've got to get DH to talk about this and start thinking about what's reasonable--because the thing is, even if they want to stay for several weeks, that doesn't mean it's the best situation for you and DH--heck, even for them, if these visits make you resent them.  If you could have a better relationship with them if the visits were shorter, that's better for the long term for everyone.[/quote]

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