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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It is the illness talking, not the person. But that is hard to separate out and not take personally when the illness and person are so intertwined.

When I hear something that is angry, irrational and out of character, I just tell myself it is the depression talking and ignore it, same as if he said something under the influence of heavy pain meds/anesthesia [/quote]

So at what point does OP get to say, "You know what? I'm fucking sick of the challenge of living with a man who has depression and does nothing to control it?" [/quote]

He is taking meds and seeing a doctor so i wouldn't say he is doing nothing - but it does sound like he is doing the bare minimum.

That is a pretty individual question, and depends on the people involved. There are many other health issue that can impact life. It is like asking..

"You know what? I'm fucking sick of the challenge of living with a woman/man who has obesity and does the bare minimum to control it?"

"You know what? I'm fucking sick of the challenge of living with a woman/man who has diabetes and does the bare minimum to control it?"

"You know what? I'm fucking sick of the challenge of living with a woman/man who has anxiety and does the bare minimum to control it?"

"You know what? I'm fucking sick of the challenge of living with a woman/man who has a chronic illness and does the bare minimum to control it?"

Everyone has a different tolerance level for what they can handle and the point at which their own mental health is impacted to the point they can't take it any more.  Depression by definition pretty much takes away the energy and motivation and mindset required to seek help, especially for men who have been socialized to be tough and strong and not talk about how they feel. [/quote]

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