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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am so upset right now.  I just had a huge fight with my DH regarding money and he told me I am not doing my best to find a job!  
I told him that I simply do not have the time to put into a real job effort b/c I have all this stuff to do around the house that is just taking up my time.  I drop DD off at school in the morning at 7:00 AM and I pick her up around 3 PM most days.  After that, she and I go together to the gym. In between, I do shopping, clean the house, get meals ready, do laundry, etc.  I suddenly find that my time is up and I haven't even sent out a resume!  It is so frustrating.

Well, today DH told me that I need to get better at time management and need to think of my job search as a job and put other things on the back burner.  He doesn't care if the house is "perfectly clean" or the flower beds weeded. Those things can wait for the weekend, when he can help take care of them.  However, I just cannot let them go.  It is not in my nature.  He also thinks neither one of us needs to be the homework police for DD - 14.   That it is her responsibility to do her assignments and make sure they are in on time, and that if she doesn't do it and the poor grades come in then there will be consequences.  I just cant' trust her, though and feel as if I need to stand over her otherwise whe is texting, playing on FB, etc.  As far as letting some things go for the weekend, it is just not in me to do.  DH says that my constant need to have th "perfect" house is driving me and everyone else crazy and that time at home is not enjoyable.  He says he would rather talk about anything else but the g*****n house!  DH says I am using this need"to do" all these things to procrastinate from job hunting because I hate being rejected.

Well, I thought that was a total jerk comment and told him why doesn't he try to find a job.  He told me that if he was in a position to have to find work, he would be out doing it.  As it is, he says we are fortunate for him to have a job that takes care of the bills and more so that I do not really have to worry about having a job and can take my time to pick and choose.  Try looking for a job, he said, when you are really worried about keeping a roof over your head and putting food on the table.  I think he is being an ass! 
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