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[quote=Anonymous]Well, it sounds to me like you're being pretty judgmental about their life, and taking things quite personally.  We can't really know what was going on, of course, but here's what I wonder:

- maybe the husband was just trying to defend his wife
- maybe the wife feels like you and she have drifted apart, or like you're always judging her, or whatever... and her husband was trying to have her back
- maybe you've been a pain and she's not interested in continuing to be "BFF" with you.
- maybe she really is struggling - for whatever reason.  Parenting is hard.  Marriage is hard.  Maintaining lifelong friendships through transitions and life changes in tough.  Changinng/ending friendships is tough.  Etc...
- Why on earth wouldn't you talk to or write to your friend before getting so angry?  If she's your BFF then you should have a basis for talking through misunderstandings or times of stress.
- maybe she knows you think her husband is an ass and that's putting her in a very difficult spot
- maybe he is trying to isolate her and the best thing you can do is be a steady, non-judgmental, flexible, "I'll still be there in ten years even if I don't hear from you in the meantime" kind of friend.

I don't know, but there are WAAAY more possible answers or shades of grey here than there are black and white answers.

Mostly you sound really judgmental to me.[/quote]

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