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[quote=Anonymous]I also think you need to talk more about finances together. Maybe once a week (or every 8 days, given his schedule?), I'd plan to talk in the evening. Go over how things stand budget-wise, big expenses coming up, your expected income coming in. Also, you can discuss your work schedule--possibly how many hours you've put in over the last period of time, what projects you have ahead of you.

He might be more inspired to work overtime if he feels he is working toward a specific goal. How are you doing on retirement/college savings? Or vacation/new car/home repair savings? Perhaps you would both feel inspired to work a little extra to put money toward those specific goals.

I agree that your work schedule should be made more regular, if possible, so that his time watching the kids is something he expects, rather than coming as something he can complain about.

Then, if he starts to complain about time/money, you know that you've discussed things. His guilt-tripping you is unacceptable, as it would be if you are guilt-tripping him for his doing the job you both agreed to. If he is still trying to blame you after being made more aware of your joint financial situation and your contributions to the family, I'd guess that counseling would be in order.[/quote]

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