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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are in denial. You hate that you are the breadwinner. You feel guilty for feeling this way because being a firefighter is a noble thing.

If you are really proud of him and you love him so much, it shouldn't cause you so much angst. If you hate it then you should tell him. The resentment will only grow if you are not being honest with yourself.[/quote]

I do hate that I'm a breadwinner. I have told him as much. But I would be much more okay with it if I didn't get the blame that things are tight. [b]He can easily get overtime or extra pay, but isn't motivated to. [/b]So everything falls to me-- which is much easier to take if he appreciates it, gives me the time to work without a guilt trip, etc.

[b]I wish it were more of a team approach to the finances [/b]and bucking up together when things are rough. That would make it much easier and less of a burden, since it's clear I'll have to be the main breadwinner for a while.

So there it is-- I want him to be more involved, less blame-y, and more understanding of what I handle.[/quote]

Have you asked him why he doesn't do overtime and why he views financial shortfalls as your fault?[/quote]

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