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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just had a kid. She's 4 months old and the most amazing thing that's ever happened to me. That said it suck. Sucks big time. Being pregnant is horrible. Labor is beyond the worst thing ever. Lack of sleep, no freedom, no time. Taking a shower is an achievement. Going to the bathroom is a luxury. I didn't originally want kids and I should have stuck with that. But that said its an amazing often wonderful experience. [/quote]

You and I could be the same person.  I also have a 4 month old DD.  I love her more than I thought possible.  I also did not want children; I won't say that I should have stuck with that, but all the things that I was worried about -- effect on my body, lack of personal time, relationship stress with DH -- absolutely happened.  Plus there is a weird disconnect in loving my DD and still missing my old life.  My life is richer because she's in it, but also much harder and some of the other kinds of richness (like my once-awesome relationship with DH) are somewhat diminished.  DH and I agree that we are definitely one and done.

OP, the question I asked myself was, "Can I commit to being a good parent -- a loving, providing, involved parent through all the sucky, sticky, sleepless parts of parenting -- even if it turns out I don't like parenthood that much and regret having children."  I knew that I could and would make myself do right by my kid on all the basics, even if it turned out I didn't like her or parenting, so I felt like it was safe to proceed.

Good luck![/quote]

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