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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Thanks to all for so much advice and so many reasoned opinions. A few points:

My dad is 78, almost 79...not 70.  Also, his lease goes through the spring, so he's not moving ANYWHERE right now.  I am thrilled that he has plenty of time after my mom's death to take time to really decide what to do.  It's way too soon right now to make a major decisions.  But the thing is, they were talking about both moving in with us before she died.  It would have been easier, in many ways, to have both of them here.  So it's not a kneejerk reaction to her death that's causing him to think about this move - it's something we've all been discussing for some time.

The nanny, however lovely she is, is not going to be making this decision for us.    I mean, this is my DAD we're talking about.  I respect her opinion but if this is how it goes, well, then she'll have to decide if it's something she can't live with.

He doesn't have dementia or any major health issues, just lots of small issues. If he had dementia or another serious health issue, we'd have to put him into assisted living.  He has insurance to cover that.  But as he is now, he really can't afford one of the pricier independent living places around here and he can't stay in his 2 BR apartment indefintely.  He wants to be closer to us, and he's willing to pull up staked in his town and come here.  He's a total joiner, so I have no doubt he would find a group of similar-thinking individuals and get involved in groups and organziations.

You guys have raised great points. I am going to think it all over, a lot, and wait for the monthlong trial run to see how it goes. Many thanks to all for your help![/quote]

You didn't mention his personality, that would make a big difference.[/quote]

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