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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It will ruin your relationship with your H and your father.

If you father get dementia it will ruin your children's lives.

Your father is only 70 years old. He is not old enough to be moving in with his daughter. I suspect your mom did everything for him and he will expect you to do them same.

If he has a house he is selling you can afford a place like Asbury Methodist. Otherwise, I would look at an over 55 community.

He can do dinner with you once a week and on weekends.

If you are thinking this is a win-win because you need he money you are going down a bad path.

At you a nurse trained in caing for aging adults or dementia. If not you will actually be providing sub-par care when you care for him.[/quote]

OP again.  One more thing. I am for sure not after his money, as suggested here.  He doesn't have any.  Simple as that.[/quote]

BTW... I was not suggesting you were after his money. But you said he would pay rent/utilities. My intention is that when this happens it frees up some of your money. If you become dependent on that freed up money to live and the situation turns badly you are stuck. You can't have him move out because you can't afford it. Also, I know some friends that added onto the house with parents money, put in an inlaw suite, it did not work out but now the parents had money tied up in the house.

It is just a nightmare all around. I have many friends who have gone down this path with not 1 that has turned out positively.

Most my friend (and myself) have a parent move into a close by over 55 community and they are very much a part of their lives but not in a negative way.[/quote]

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