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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP... Some of these people are nuts.  Your cousin wants you to attend.  The gift is really irrelevant.  Give a card with a nice note.  $200 us out of your reach.  So what.  Don't not eat for a week in order to give a gift.  Some people are just shallow and feel that value, love, importance can only be measured my money.

When I got married my 5 yr old sister made me a card.  In the handmade card, was $1.  Her allowance at the time was .25 cents per week.  My sister gave me in essence a months salary.  My new husband laughed at the dollar and wanted to know who gave such a cheap gift.  I explained where it came from and how much money that was in her world and he shut up.  I no longer am married to him but I still gave the card and the dollar.

Give what you can/ want.  Your cousin has been there before and will understand.[/quote]

Let's all take a moment here and realize THE OP IS NOT FIVE YEARS OLD. I am the poster who gives cousins $200. Before I even get the wedding invitation, I start saving for a gift, transportation, and if needed, a new dress.  Yes, the OP, like your five year old sister, should be saving up for the wedding. No more Starbucks, no more cocktail hours with the girls, only matinee movies, take on a couple of babysitting gigs for a few Saturday nights in a row. You don't just wake up one day to realize that next week you have a wedding to attend and go digging through your couch cushions to scrounge up enough change for a gift. You plan in advance and save. I would be embarrassed to show up at a wedding and give a shitty gift. [/quote]

Honestly, if I knew someone scrimped and saved to give me a wedding gift, I would be horrified and it would take a lot of the joy away for me.  When I got married, I felt kind of bad knowing that some of my grad student friends and others without a lot of money were incurring expenses to travel to my wedding.  An expensive gift on top of that would have been too much!  They generally bought modest gifts, but I would have been perfectly happy with nothing but a heartfelt card.  These are people I care about, after all.  Why would I want them to experience any financial (or other) stress on my behalf?  A wedding should be a joyful occasion for everyone involved.  Save the sacrifices for when friends are in need or in trouble.  [/quote]

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