Reply to When your daughter moves out and you will miss her...

Forum Index » Eldercare

Reply to "When your daughter moves out and you will miss her..."

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]Hello again, everyone!

I'm the OP of this old thread and thought it would be fun to come back and update everyone.

Oh, it was hard that day she and her boyfriend loaded up the U-Haul and drove away, and her room was empty and my heart was so sad.

But now I am happy to report that we have adjusted. We keep in touch a lot via daily texts, occasional emails and Skypes and phone calls.

To everyone who said our relationship would evolve into a more adult one, you were right. We always had a great relationship (though the 15-17 years were rocky), and now we still do but relate more as adult-to-adult.

But since she is still only 18, there are times when she reverts a little. Like this morning she texted me that she was on the bus on her way to campus and she saw someone that looked like me and it made her sad. She ended her text with, "I miss you, momma.". And last week she was in the grocery store and saw a display of items for a Mexican meal and texted me, "Momma, remember when this was my favorite meal you would cook? I miss that." The whole time she was growing up, I was always just "Mom", but now sometimes I am "Momma" to her.

I still sometimes miss having her around all the time, but now it has softened into more of a nostalgia rather than a breaking heart. It helps that I am so proud of how she is handling being a freshman, maintaining an apartment, and working a part-time job. I am proud that she is not partying it up, she is taking her classes very seriously, and she has not asked me for any money. (Although I do send her cards with money occasionally, but it's my own idea and she always makes sure to acknowledge them and thank me for them.)

Recently I visited her for four days and she was such a gracious hostess... one night I said that since she had cooked such a nice dinner for me that I would clean up the kitchen but she adamantly wouldn't hear of it.

So to any other mothers facing a child moving away to college in the near future, I can tell you that, at least for me, it has ended up being a positive experience.. so don't worry too much. :)[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics