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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]It was this exact attitude that caused her to unsuccessful - that her success was entirely dependent on other people doing the right thing. She had a multiple of services and supports accessible to her and she was well connected to the department that provides support to students with disabilities. Her problem was that she externalized all responsibility for her success - just as you have - if only others had gotten her different/ better help then she  would have been successful. The reality is that if only she had utilized the help and resources she had and looked at what she needed to do - she would have been successful. There will always be people who externalize all responsibility for their success on others and others who have a sense of agency and who work with those around them and the services they have to be successful. Given I was being accused of discrimination weekly by her whenever I didn't make her successful. By partway through the course  I was not in a position to do anything to assist her other than , I wasn't even allowed to speak to her without a witness present.

the attitude you have that it was my responsibility and not hers to make her successful is not a good one for you to pass along to your son. Teach him to self-advocate and to have a sense of agency that he can be successful by his actions (and accessing what he needs) and that it isn't other people's responsibility to make sure he does well.[/quote]

Your vision of kids with disabilities has obviously have been sullied by this one experience.

I understand teaching is not your main "responsibility" nor are you trained to teach it is publishing papers.[/quote]

No it hasn't sullied my view of kids with disabilities - most of the kids with disabilities are great to work with and work really hard to be successful. I was just describing how I had two students last year with severe dyslexia and how their attitude made all the difference. One expected me to make her successful and the other expected herself to be successful with my support. You responded that it was my responsibility to make her successful and the reason she wasn't was because I didn't get her the right help - I disagreed with that.

And I don't even do research - I have a teaching position and am a trained teacher!
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