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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here again.  As far as the college experience, I'm talking about learning to live away from home and managing on your own, getting exposed to a new city/town ... I'm not talking about partying.  That could happen wherever they go.

For me, moving away was part of growing up.  I guess I see it as an important part of that transition to adulthood.[/quote]

[b]"Managing on your own" while someone else is footing the bill doesn't prepare one for adulthood[/b]. College is one big bubble, and not at all similar to adult life, quite the opposite. it's even less similar than living with parents where at least you need to adapt to the person who holds the purse (something that will be happening to the rest of one's life).[/quote]

NP here.  I disagree with this as too broad a statement.  It all depends on the situation.  My oldest kid goes to an out of state school.  She has scholarships and such and we pay the difference with her tuition.  But she has to work to pay her rent and buy her groceries.  So we are "footing" her education bill and she is managing her "living" bill.  My second oldest is on athletic scholarship and she EARNS every penny.  Not every college experience involves the parents footing the entire bill.  I told my kids that if they wanted to go out of state, they had to have skin in the game.  They have done that and they are learning life management.  Frankly, I know very few familes with kids in college and the parents are paying the full freight. [/quote]

I also take issue with this. Our son goes out of state and has had to learn how to hold down a part time job while juggling a demanding course load as an engineering major. He's had to negotiate a couple of tricky living arrangements with roommates, and he's learned the value of having good friends to call on when it's been time for them to move to new dorms and apartments in the Fall of each year. He's had to figure out how to manage his finances -- sure, he calls once in a while and asks for help (we many send some extra money or offer some guidance about dealing with his bank, the financial aid office, etc) but he's pretty independent. Sure, he has fun on the weekends, but it's great for him and for us to know his social life is in a little bit of a "bubble." This will end soon enough when he graduates and must face more of the real-world experience of working fulltime or grad school. While I understand that it's not practical for all families to send kids away for college, I do think living away at school has some distinct advantages.[/quote]

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