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[quote=Anonymous]?OP I do not want to jump right in and label your DH a hoarder. My DH has some hoarder type issues, but he still listens to reason. Perhaps yours will also. In my experience, if you ask someone about a particular object, they will always find some value in it. Particularly, they will remember the money they spent -- even if it was 10 years ago. It is hard for a regular person to look at something they spent money on and know that it was a costly mistake, now it is broken, but the money is gone. For some reason, people will hold onto that. (Look in your closet)
But if you take a caring approach, you might be able to make some headway (if he is not a true hoarder).

Our garage was just a nightmare with stuff from our previous home, stuff from his Dad's house, stuff, stuff stuff. But a lot of the collections from his Dads' were paper and paper in the garage = mildew which = no value. But it was heartbreaking to get rid of. So I did that. Afterwards, in all that mess, who could remember exactly what had been there?

Elderly computers, and other electronics, TVs, small appliances -- they are really pretty worthless-- check the donation guidelines for the major donation companies (Salvation Army etc), and you will see what I mean. One day, while I was gone, DH hired a guy with a truck, and when I came home it was gone. Now we have a garage again. When you look at how expensive real estate is around here, and realize that you now have a great big empty garage, it can be very motivating. Sometimes I just go out there and look at it!

But do not despair, if your DH is not a true hoarder and you take the right approach, you may be able to resolve some of this. It is best to let him have his space and not to judge. But mail, screws, old magazines, newspapers, and so on -- a normal person will not object to seeing that gone.

Give your DH an chance before you judge. It sounds like you have very different styles.[/quote]

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