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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]One thing I did with my DH, who was too busy and reluctant to go through and purge his stuff, was to go through it first and sort into keep/donate/trash piles.  (With his permission and the promise that I wouldn't trash anything without his approval.)  Then all he had to do was go through the donate and trash piles.  Essentially, I made an overwhelming task manageable for him.  [/b]

So for example, for all of your DH's scattered CD's-- I'd put those in a box separated into keep and donate, then have him flip through and retrieve any he wanted to keep from the donate pile.  It would take only 5 or 10 minutes for him to do it, then you can proceed with actually donating or trashing his approved items.

Don't get rid of anything without his consent, because you need to keep his trust.  Don't argue with him about wanting to keep something you think should be trashed, because you want him to buy into and continue to participate in this process.

See if that strategy helps the two you make a dent in the problem.[/quote]

You are a brilliant woman. Often times, for disorganized people, the task seems overwhelming. This is true for my husband. I've organized things of his and at first, he was resistant until he saw I would not throw out anything without his permission and actually found money! LOL. Now he's much more willing to not only let me get in there, but has gotten less attached because he can see clearly what he really doesn't need.

You understand fear and respect go hand-in-hand sometimes - goodonya.[/quote]

Would 2nd the original PPs suggestions and the praise for it.

You can't make the final keep/trash decisions for your husband because you simply don't know his emotional landscape.  But if you pre-sort / organize it all for him you turn an absolutely overwhelming task into a simple 5-10 min task of him looking through to find the few items whose sentimental value you don't recognize. [/quote]

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