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[quote=Anonymous]OP here. As mentioned in my post, DH can be blunt and harsh, his way of talking, spectrum or not, and over the years I have set boundaries to deal with this, and sometimes just ignore if trivial. All cases I let him know he has been unduly harsh and that it is concerning.
And more often than not, they make sense but just delivered harshly, runs in his family. Not an excuse but reality.

Back to topic at hand:

The tattoo is supposed to be a lion eating an elephant, SIL had given a lengthy description to explain this.
I do not know specifics since SIL deleted entire post and all comments not just his (why is that?), but as per DH others were insinuating as well. One friend had said 'I like your description better than the tattoo', Yeah but SIL does not have description on her body and felt that a 10 line wording was necessary to describe what it signified. And apparently, DH and SIL had 2-3 back and forth postings on her FB post, regarding if it is more like a lion or cow, which in my opinion she should not have stooped to if this meant so much to her.

So yes others and myself do think the tattoo was poorly made, she still has it under her photos sections, hence I know. I would love to post the picture, but that would be revealing too much :shock: , but you guys can imagine a cow with shoes masquerading as a lion with patches on its back to signify parts of elephant. Will pass for comical caricature and cartoonist, maybe that was what the artist had in mind?

So I agree with DH intention, he said since it is on her body and not a painting on a house wall, it becomes all the more important to be direct and honest and let her know, as she seems to be unaware and in denial and true friends will do this. On the other hand, it is on her body and she has significance attached to it, so she is more sensitive to it.

I am aghast with the FB delivery as well and typically never do more than a like on FB in public. So question is still how would you deliver the message? Be like the above friend and insinuate and hope SIL gets message? Just ignore and laugh at it behind her back? Email, text, phone, face to face? Any thoughts, apart from the PP asshole remarks?

As for current situation, I emailed my SIL, it is unfortunate, I am sorry & sad  the whole thing happened, but they need to talk to each other to sort it out. I am not going to get in between them.
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