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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's me OP, yes I agree to a point that she seems a little taken with the wealth thing but then again she is in a school where its prevalent and spending big is rampant. I cannot blame her for it but secretly always longed for her to start college and break away if you will. Now, this hardly looks like it could be the case is my point.

I do not want to appear smug about how sure I am that she will get in but I will say that I feel very confident that she will and if she doesn't then problem solved :)

I really do not see her seeking out these kinds of people if she were left to her own devices, I think she would stay closer to her for the comfort security and the fringe benefits that admittedly she has grown accustomed to.

Well time will tell and we will find out soon enough. Thank you for weighing in....off to take her to her SAT class.[/quote]

At some of the most prestigious schools in the country there is far more economic diversity than there is a little further down the food chain.  A handful of institutions are still committed to need-blind admissions, and they also cap the amount of debt that students can graduated with.  That's a lot different from when I went to one of these schools, but even then there was still plenty of economic diversity.  She will make other friends through classes, dorms, activities and study groups.  She will not be only with her friend 24/7/365.

Also, your DD's friend will NOT be the only rich kid at school no matter where she goes.  At my school, we kind of laughed at the people who went to Paris for the weekend or who had their limo drivers drop them off for classes.  They pretty quickly sent Daddy's driver and the limo home once they realized that wasn't "done."   But you cannot shield her from rich people by having her go to a different college.  Some will be there, too.  I would let her make her own way, and if she gets in, then your job is to stand back and let her go.  Whatever support and spending limits you set should be set based on your actual facts and not by trying to control her and her friend.  This is the first big decision she gets to make, and you need to let go. [/quote]

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