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[quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry OP, that sounds awful, and unfair and very upsetting.

I like 13:36's advice about ignoring her and not engaging.  You need to protect your nuclear family.

We had some battles with our various parents/grandparents to be (not as harsh as this), and we had some similar nightmares before kids around marriage etc...  My husband and I quickly learned that we needed to be a united front, and to protect ourselves and our vision for our family against everyone else's agenda, influence, best (or worst) intentions, etc...

Consider this an unfortunate lesson, but a real opportunity, in terms of deciding how you and your husband want your family to be built and run.  You and he set the rules and anyone who wants to be supportive and helpful - great.  Anyone who is nasty, hurtful, aggressively pushing their own agenda, inappropriate or demeaning of you/your husband/your choices around your child/etc... is not welcome.  Even (maybe even especially) if that's your mother.

Heaven help you when you get to decisions about breastfeeding, nap schedules, feeding, childcare, discipline, etc...  Consider this excellent preparation for all of those times when someone thinks you're doing it wrong.

Good luck.  And congratulations on your baby!!   A newborn really is the ultimate tool for making grandparents come around if they have any shred of reason in them.  I hope your mother sees the light and gets a grip.  In the meantime just take care of your little family, whatever it means for you.[/quote]

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