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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am Catholic but not a practicing Catholic. Very serious with a Jewish man. He wants to get engaged but religion is a dividing factor, he has asked me to convert which is out of the question. He says its not him but his parents. I for much the same reasons would not do that though I do not practice my religion. It would kill my mother and it is not a consideration. Any input? We are at a standstill right now. He has said he still wants to go forward and that our families will need to accept things as they are but I am afraid it will come up later when we start a family.[/quote]

First red flag.....Don't marry a guy who doesn't have a backbone.  If he is not adult enough to make critical decisions on his own without his parent's approval, then can you imagine what your marriage would be like?  You're not marrying his parents.  You're marrying him.  Many folks have interfaith marriages or they allow their spouses the freedom to practice their own religion.  It is your choice and your choice alone.  If you want to convert to Judaism, then that's fine.  However, if you don't, then he must respect and accept your decision.  Why do you both have to be the same religion?  Why not just accept that you're not that religious.  Also, [b]wait until your future children are older and they could choose for themselves[/b].

[b]Religion or not..I will not marry a man who always have to answer to his Mommy[/b].  He needs to accept you and not try to change you.  If not, then don't get married.  Marry somone who accepts you for you. [/quote]

Statistically speaking, children who grow up with nothing choose ... nothing.  The person who grows up in a household with no religion (so that they can "choose for themselves" as teens or adults) doesn't know about religion, and - consequently - rarely chooses any religion.

I agree that a man who feels he has to answer to his parents on major life issues like this one will pose problems vis-a-vis many marital issues down the line.  Red flag.[/quote]

"Nothing"  when it comes to religion, can be a good thing.

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