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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I am just a year behind you in age but in a far different circumstance.  I am a full-time working mom in a high stress and sometimes long hours profession.  My children are in elementary school and the first year of middle school respectively.

I do not think for one second that when I get to where you are - having packed the last one off to college - I will in any way be "meh" about it.  My sadness may be different than yours, though.  I may feel I missed too much and now my chance will be gone.  I really worry about that.  I really worry that is how I will feel.

You were there.  You lived it.  You got to be the best mom you possibly could be every minute of the day.  You are now sad about what is next.  What is next is your promotion.  Your promotion to new interests and new causes and the new (and maybe some old) things that make you you.  Your next project is yourself.

I felt compelled to post because of some of the bizarre working mom posts above.  This working momma gets it and says "Well done!" for getting to where you are.  Therapy is certainly an option, or perhaps a life coach type person to help you find your first task on the new project that is you.

You have done a great job at your job.  You have launched them.  It will be hard to change course, and unbearably sad in the beginning, but they are not gone.  Neither are you, and they know that.  So keep inspiring,  My MIL shamed DH and I into running a marathon when she took them up herself at age 58.  The ways in which you lead and show the way and become your best self are a little different perhaps than the "hold hands when we cross the street" days, but you have not lost your ability to be a trusted confident and an inspiration.  Go get 'em.[/quote]

Its me OP and I want to thank everyone for your kind words (most of them) :) I could be peri menopausal, yes and of course that could explain the crying bouts and extreme sadness too. To the above poster, thank you for this post. It really touched my heart and showed me this position from a different perspective. I appreciate your kindness and words of confidence. I know this will not be easy and to think this time next year we will be packing up my son, the baby for college is both incredibly exciting (for him) but really sad for me. I guess having done pretty much the same thing for 25 years now, its going to feel totally new and frightening to pretty much take anything on.  A friend suggested writing a blog which I may start doing, she said its really therapeutic and cathartic to connect with other like minded people. I am not one to rush to a doctor so that's the last resort but I am not opposed to meds if it will lift me out of this funk. I look forward to going back over the many ideas and its comforting to know I am not alone.[/quote]

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