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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am the "poor" sib in my family, but I (like your bro, OP) am not poor. Just a dual income family with teacher-like careers and incomes. My brother is wealthy, lives in a fabulous house, has a beach house, flies off to great places, etc. Am I jealous? Yeah, a bit. But I realize how wealthy I am compared to 99% of the globe, and that I'm right smack dab in the middle in this area, and that I have everything I need. So mostly I'm just happy for him. So, some advice:
As PP above said, please go to your brother's house. Often. The one thing my brother's family does that hurts my feelings is to always say "Oh, we'll host Christmas (or whatever) because we have more room." Room isn't really the point of Christmas, is it? I like to host, too. Rotate.

Quietly save for their kids' college. The one place your brother probably does envy you is in your ability to secure your kids' future.

Instead of offering to pay for expensive trips, instead plan to do less expensive things together. So instead of saying "Hey, would your family like to go to Paris with us?  we'll pay", try "Would you like to go camping with us? There's this great national park three hours south."[/quote]

While you offer good advice, something tells me OP does not go camping :) I think the gesture to pay for the Paris trip is valid because theres a purpose, their sisters wedding. Its not like she is saying lets jaunt off to Paris for fashion week, she is merely offering a practical solution to a potential problem.

I hear you on the "We will do Christmas here" because they assume that they have the bigger and better of everything, it should be done there. I get that too. We have an average sized home but the funny thing is my nieces and nephews whose parents are very very wealthy always want to come to our "normal house" in our very "normal neighborhood" which I find ironic but wonderfully flattering!
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