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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP you sound really annoying.  First of all, your husband is rich and successful.  From what I can tell your "home based business" is just a way to keep you occupied.  Your "he's so talented" smugness is just unbearable.

Your brother sounds like he's doing what he needs to do and his wife is a teacher, not a prostitute.  They are doing fine.

You seem to think it is more awkward than your brother does.  If you are literally oozing money I agree with the other posters that you could gift it to your nieces' and nephews' 529 accounts.  But do so quietly, without expecting anything in return or a huge thank you.  You do it because you care about their family.  And not thinking "if it weren't for me they'd be homeless on the street without college," but just because it is something you do.
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You sound angry and bitter no offense. I think if anything sounds incredibly  kind and empathetic to even think this way. OP I think your gesture and consideration is wonderful. Maybe tell him once if he rebuffs you don't ask again. And I like the idea of saying they are miles that might expire so why doesn't he just "take them off your hands"...great idea. I was in a similar situation as my sister was married to a loser who ran them in the hole financially and it was hard for her to see us with the American dream. Thankfully she came to her senses, dumped him went back to get her masters and now has a fantastic job and just bought a new apt. It was a thrill for our entire family to see her doing so well! Kudos to you for your consideration to others and ignore the jealous haters.

Be there for him and let him know you are, but don't force anything upon him, you don't want to wound his pride.[/quote]

Actually, I am a 1%er, and am definitely not bitter at having siblings with more than me (although I do have a brother who is a mega-millionaire, i also have siblings in the other direction).

My post may have been a bit excessive, but the thing that really bugged me was that OP sounds condescending.  It's important to realize that both OP and her brother are not poor.  And his brother's dignity is worth a lot, which seems not to come into play -- you don't offer to loan people money unless they are really in a hard place because it can be really humilating to the person being asked. The brother refuses so it seems like he doesn't enjoy being asked.  The OP doesn't really seem to see this side at all and even seems to see herself as a bit superior because her family does have more money than they need right now.

I like the idea of donating to the 529s for their kids and not saying much about it, just sending a statement to the brother once per year, and otherwise treating his brother as ever bit as great as if he were making millions.  Is that really so bad?
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Well hats off to you but admitting it was a little harsh:) I gotta give you credit where due. I think we all react differently to this likely based on our own situations. I am not rich at all but we live in a house worth about 700k can afford two cars and a vacation once or twice a year. More than anything, though I consider myself spiritually rich. I love my husband and girls more than i thought possible and that is something no money can buy. I think her gesture was well meaning but she needs to consider how it makes him feel. It sounds like her heart was in the right place though.[/quote]

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