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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, I think you said HE initiated the conversation of "Where is this going"?  If so, I would give him ONE more chance.   I would tell him, if it's accurate:  "You say you like me and want to continue to see me, but I am getting mixed signals from you.  [b]I find it strange that you go for extended periods of time not responding to my texts, or generally being unreachable.[/b]  This makes me feel that either you are not interested, or perhaps you are seeing someone else."

And see what he says.  No harm in just asking.  You can still move on after you get his answer.[/quote]

Good idea.[/quote]

Terrible idea! Terrible, terrible idea.  Under these circumstances, what is the point of the follow up? He knows you like him and want more. If he is making it clear that he doesn't want more (than a physical relationship), and probably wants less, this just comes off as desperate.  Appearing desperate would only increase his desire to pull away, and decrease any chance that he would ever recognize that he was losing something good.

He is not giving mixed signals. The only signal he has given is that he likes having a physical relationship. The signals you mentioned have all been pretty consistent in this way. The talk about a tropical vacation is consistent with this too. He initiated the talk about "where this is going" to take your temperature, not to change things.

Keep this in mind. Each day he chooses not to change things by not texting and by not pursuing. These are active choices. If you think actions speak louder than words, why ask for more words when you have seen plenty of his actions?

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Ugh, this line of thinking always annoys me. There is nothing at all "desperate" about direct communication. Say what you want, see if the other party wants the same, and if not, nice knowing you, see you later.

To me that's a lot less "desperate" than waiting by the phone, analyzing the wording of every text, but not actually COMMUNICATING.[/quote]

She has already told him that she wants to spend more time with him and made herself available to him. She has already said what she wanted. As she stated, she has already "hunted." He has failed to respond, and disappeared for periods of time, ignored texts, etc. They have both directly communicated - her in words, he in action. [/quote]

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