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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't really get these comments. When other loved ones engage in self-destructive behaviors, we aren't expected to stay quiet.  What if her brother was an addict, or an alcoholic, or drove recklessly, or drove in a car without a seatbelt?  Would she still have to keep her mouth shut?  Of course not - so why is this different?  [/quote]

I would like to hear more comments about this position, because I agree with it completely. Virtually any other self-destructive behavior that loved ones engage in will bring about conversations, interventions, family meetings, you name it. Weight is the one taboo. Guess what, though... it DOES affect other people. It's not just about the brother who is obese. So why can't we talk about it?[/quote]

Oh, please, does it really impact OP's life? Or is it just a subtle, not-so-subtle-really attempt at one upmanship? No, obesity is not like alcoholism, drug addiction or second hand smoke. OP gets a not-to-subtle ego trip out of all of this, which is why, if OP really cares, she'll step back, not judge, like on her brother with compassion and MYOB![/quote]

Is it really so hard to believe that she is concerned about him?  That seeing someone you love act in a way that is detrimental to his health is troubling?  That doesn't "impact her life?"  And how is that less of an impact on OP's life than if he was an addict?  [/quote]

Would it be helpful to you for a family member to rub your face in what (they view) are your own bad choices?  Do you really need them to point out your failings to you?  How you could do things better (like them)?  Or would you find that to be highly intrusive, even insulting?  Think about your own failings and how you want others to treat you.....think about what you really hope to accomplish before you speak.

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