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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a daughter-in-law, and subsequently sister-in-law, niece-in-law, cousin-in-law, etc., to a whole passel of folks, I wouldn't read any subtext into this. Some guys just tend to delegate a lot of extended family stuff to their wives, and then you can't be surprised when those wives kind of get entrenched. Personally, I moved across the country well over a decade ago when I got married and, in a way, my BILs are more brothers to me than my flesh and blood brother is.

Should your husband be more communicative to you? Certainly! And it is a goal he should show progress toward. But in the meantime, at least he's communicating with someone and not just stewing in his own baggage.

I would wait and see what kind of fruit this bears, rather than rushing in with assumptions and possibly breaking trust. Reassess based on whether his behavior to you improves or not.[/quote]

I agree.  I don't think the relationship is inappropriate in any way.  You can't control who your DH chooses to confide in, nor should you attempt to do so.  Your SIL seems to be a friend to your marriage and has spoken up on your behalf.[/quote]

This.  I am surprised that so many people see so much negativity in this.  My older sisters have been married to their DH's since I was a teen.  Over the past 20 years, my BIL's have become MY brothers.  And yes, they have counseled me and giving me the "man's perspective" of issues within my own marriage.

Do women on here really think you can regulate who your DH talks to - especially within the family?  Honestly, I would rather my DH confide in his brother's wife (who was positive) than a co-worker who I don't know.  But to not expect him to confide in someone and to make his DW the be-all in communication is an unrealistc expectation.  [/quote]

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