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[quote=Anonymous]FWIW, my mother gave me wonderful advice when I was a teen. The background is that I was "this close" to having sex with my BF of 1 year and she was no fool about it. We had the birth control talk and all that. But she said (can't remember exact words but it was more eloquent than I'll say here) "after you have sex once, future relationships move a lot faster sexually than your first one." Vividly remember her telling me this when I was 15 and thinking she was silly (b/c of course I'd be with my BF forever and ever). But it stuck. And, she was the first person I told after I did have sex, b/c I didn't want to be sneaking around to get birth control.

Like a PP above, I was also more sexual (though I'm not going to say promiscuous bc I was always in a relationship -- no one night stands) as a teen than perhaps I should have been. Again, wasn't due to low self-esteem or unstable family life. And maybe it was because I started young. I was not a drinker at all, never interested in drugs of any kind, but sex was a curious power that I enjoyed. Continued through college. Then got married to a sexual history equal (for lack of a better term) in my early 20s and still blissfully happy at 40. Lucky me.

I was fortunate in that, although somewhat awkward at the time, my mom approached it in a way that made me feel like I wasn't being treated like a child. I'm not saying she suggested I was an adult -- b/c she didn't. She made it very clear that I was still young and learning things, but she was not blind to the situation as it were. She also made it very clear that she thought I was a smart kid and generally made good decisions, and she didn't want me to make bad ones about sex (any of which could have disastrous consequences) because I didn't feel like I could talk to her b/c I thought she'd punish me.

Open communication was really key here. Good luck.[/quote]

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