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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP I am sure you are nothing like this, but I have a sister who isn't showering my kids with gifts. I did send thank you notes, but that never seemed to be enough. I got frequently asked about the kids playing with/wearing the gifts. I was asked for photos with the gift. It stopped feeling like a gift to us because thank you wasn't enough. Plus, if she got something too small we still thanked her, but when she requested a photo and there was no receipt to return and get the bigger size it got annoying.

We finally told her, her visits were the gift and we prefer that the children not be showered with material things (which were never the material things they wanted, but we didn't say that). She ignored that, kept giving gifts and then when we started only giving a verbal thank you she got in a tizzy.

My point with all this is giving should be a totally selfless act. It's annoying and shows poor manners when people don't send thank you notes, but it's not worth obsessing over. If you want to make sure you get things they want, ask for suggestions. If you expect thank you notes, don't give.[/quote]

Your sis sounds annoying. But there is a big difference between her behavior and expecting a thank you note or verbal thank you. If a gift comes in the mail, the giver doesn't even know if it was received if they never say thank you.[/quote]

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