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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Short term advice: please try to let go of everything except keeping your marriage intact and your infant safe.  Nothing else about your stepdaughter really matters right now.  You have a guest in your home who has bad manners and eats like a barbarian.  Accept it for now and focus on the absolute must haves: you must have a safe environment hit your infant.  She must not treat him like a doll.  He is breakable.

Focus on that and only that with her.  You can't re-parent her this summer.  Try to let her bad manners be like background noise.  Let DH handle her as much as possible, or not.  Focus on your boy and on strengthening your bond with DH.

I know know know this is hard...I'm a teacher and refraining from constantly redirecting and correcting my DSD takes huge effort.  But DH and I have a son together who needs our marriage intact, and I am not her mom.  The better I am as a patent to our son, the more DH realizes what he could and should have been doing with DSD.  But I can 't come in and try to reparent his kid the way I would have parented her.[/quote]

OP here.  This is very helpful.  Thank you.[/quote]

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