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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know OP is just venting but she does sound horrifically whiny and entitled.  If she is paying rent and utilities, why not move into an apartment and get out of this aggravating situation?  Could it be it would be more expensive and cramped for her and family?  Well there you go.  MIL is doing you a huge favor whether you think so or not OP.  Deal with this situation more graciously until you can pull yourself out of it.[/quote]

OP here.  I'd like to think the whiny-ness is perceived because of the laundry list of issues I wrote.  Sure though, I can see where it comes off as "bitchy" and entitled.  But I should note:  VERY rarely do I ever address what she has or has not done.  As a matter of fact, I really only say anything when she takes and misplaces something that I use often.

NEVER EVER in a million years would I say "Geez, you ate the meal, can you lift a finger and help clean up every now and then????"
Nor would I ever say, "Could ya just put the iron away since we all use it?"

I just go and get it.  Which, by the way, I've pretty much dealt with via a suggestion here on this site... I just bought another.  Now, she'll eventually take that one too, but I'll deal with that in the same way.  As a matter of fact, I didn't say anything about the bottle brush incident.  I simply waited until she walked out and discreetly threw it away.  Yeah, I did it with a massive eyeroll, but so what.

I WOULD LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE LOVE to say all kinds of things.  I sure as hell think them, and I can't tell you how good it feels to tell YOU all about it.  I swear, I have been so much less focused on this situation and so much more focused on moving since I wrote the original post.  It has honestly been like therapy.

Am I appreciative that my family and I have somewhere to stay?  Absolutely.  But just because we are here does not give her license take MY things.  And honestly, I think SHE feels entitled.  "They're in my house, so I can take whatever I want."  Not cool, no matter who it is in your house.  As for the cleaning:  she'd barely lift a finger whether we were here or not, so its not really personal, just annoying and gross.

And I said before, it must be difficult for her to have had to deal with us.  HOWEVER:  I neglected to mention previously that she is EXTREMELY co-dependent and in the 30+ years she has owned her home, has been alone in it for no more than 2 years.

So... for those of you who think I'm a brat, whiny, entitled or what ever other crappy adjective comes to mind, I'm willing to bet you have NEVER lived with in-laws.  Or, if you did, it sure as hell must have been a fabulous experience.  So, good for you.  For me, it sucks ass.  Now, I've got to go so I can focus on moving, and NOT the main hallway that's been lined with same boxes of my MIL's random papers for the last 11 months.

Oh... was that bitchy?[/quote]

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