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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why do some posters think there is a relationship between having all joint funds and not fighting about money? I am one of the pps who does have my own separate account and we never, ever fight about money either. I agree with 8:19, the fundamental thing there is that the arrangement is out in the open. It's the secret, not the separation, that leads to conflict.

I disagree with 8:19 on one point though, that it's not your mom's business. Your mom's first instinct is going to be to protect you and that's ok. I would be asking her why she feels she needs to give you this advice. Does she have a tough divorce in her own past or does she have concerns about your specific situation? What does she think the danger is here? Then I would assess her concerns and decide for myself if it is something I need to take seriously.[/quote]
Yes you got it right. My mom is divorced. She also gets upset with me bc my husband handles all of our finances.[/quote]

Your mother is right.  Of course you need to be involved in your fianances.   The difference between you and your husband is if he leaves he still gets a paycheck.  You, not so much.   And obviously the finances aren't handled well if you need this inheritance in part for plane tickets.   [/quote]
I'm not excluded from the finances , but he's so much better with the investing part of it. We don't need the money to pay for the tickets. Instead, I looked at it as if we put that money aside, the tickets are already paid for.[/quote]

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