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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Totally normal. It has nothing to do with the smart phone, contrary to the PP stupid assertation. If he didn't find it on his smart phone, he would have found it someplace else- just like thousands and thousands of other 13 year olds.

This is an opportunity to talk with him about sexuality, not to embarrass or shame him. Ideally your DH should be the one to talk with him. He needs to know that his feelings are 100% healthy and normal.

~Mom to three grow college-aged  kids. No baby mamas. No baby daddys.  We were always very open about sex.  I am positive that our attitude towards sexuality is the reason we don't have grandchildren right now.[/quote]
I know parents with attitudes like yours who's kids have had abortions, so don't be so sure of yourself.[/quote]

I would know. My daughter came to me the week before she lost her virginity. She was 17. She wanted to talk about birth control. We went to the gyn together. She requested that I remain in the room while she talked to the doctor. The doctor openly praised our relationship and told my daughter the story of a young southern baptist girl that became pregnant and had no one to talk to. She ended up leaving the state to have an abortion all by herself. It was a heartbreaking story that ended in a suicide attempt.

My kids talk to me about sex because they know they can. I'm far from a perfect parent. But I know enough about teens to understand stand that open, frank, non-judgmental conversations trump guilt, manipulation, religious babbling, and secrecy any day. Normal healthy teenagers are going to seek out sexual material. It's our job to guide them in learning to make safe choices.[/quote]

Your daughter came to you a week before having sex? So you basically gave her some birth control pills and told her which positions to get in? [/quote]

My daughter came to me before having sex with the young man she had been dating for seven months. We talked about safety, birth control, relationships,.... Sexual positions didn't come up. We made an appointment with the gyn and got her started on the pill. He reinforced the importance of condemns. He told her that pregnancy was no where near as important as protection against sexually transmitted disease...same stuff we've always stressed to our kids.

I didn't "give her birth control pills". I helped her learn how to take charge  of her health by encouraging her to talk with a gyn about sexual health, birth control, breast cancer, future fertility ,......[/quote]

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