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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have researched many colleges since DC was a freshman basing on DC's interests at the time.  DC is a rising junior and interests have changed but some academic interests have gotten stronger.  We have eliminated some colleges, some on the back burner, some a second look, etc.

My point being that we started early, and I am an active participant in helping DC find colleges that are a good fit.  No way would I put her future fully in the hands of the college counselor, no matter how competent.  We might even consider outside placement professionals but that remains to be seen.  Ultimately, the choice is DC's but every student should get the benefit of their parent(s) experience who attended college and know the bumps and bruises along the way.[/quote]

You sound way, way over involved.  Researching since she was a freshman?  Thats just unhealthy.

Plus we all went to college at a different time.  Hence the unrealistic parental expectations referred to.  I suspect if you left it completely up to your DC it would work out just right.[/quote]I am the poster, and you haven't a clue what is entailed in our research and involvement.  While you are certainly entitled to your opinion, I would opine that your crystal ball is seriously cracked as you attempt to surmise what has occurred in our journey along the way and who we are.

Our research since she was a freshman does not involve the intensity that the latter part of junior year and senior year would involved.  I would never tell my child not to research if that is what they want regardless when they want to start.  And I damn well will be there and help in any way I can.  If you consider that unhealthy, that is your problem and not mine.

Feel free to allow your child the journey on their own.  I will suggest that you should reserve unwarranted opinions and not read between lines until you have all the facts or at least ask before you make accusations of 'unrealistic parental expectations'. [/quote]

PP here -- my DC did start researching in 9th grade and it wasn't healthy.  I don't want to identify us by going into details.  Suffice it to say that the focus on college can really skew the high school experience.  I don't know how we could have put the breaks on, but I wish we had.

[/quote]What didn't work for your child does not mean that it might not be the way to go for others.  Putting everyone in the same category as yours is just not logical.  You don't say what type of research your 9th grader did so it would be wrong for anyone to assume it may have been inappropriate and accuse you of unhealthy parenting.  I looked at the USC suggestions, and I didn't see anything there that I wouldn't do.  But that doesn't mean it's right for everyone nor does it mean USC's recommendations are unhealthy.[/quote]

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