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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Growing up, my parents came to my games when they could. Which was not that often. They had to work. But we spent TONS of time as a family at nite and on the weekends. I felt loved. Never felt neglected. And to tell you the truth: HAD NO EXPECTATION that they had to come.

When did this change?

I CERTAINLY see the pro's...

But what about the con's?

For example, I played soccer and volleyball for the love of the game. It was mine. It was for me. And my team. my soul sisters. I LOVED every minute of it. And when my parents could come visit my world, i was glad. But when they couldn't, I paid it no mind.

Are we taking the love of the game away from our kids by micromanaging and attending every game? Will my kid be the only one who doesn't have a parent at every game?[/quote]

I'm with you, OP! I was not/am not a super athlete (more of an orchestra/dancer type), but ended up playing field hockey in middle school, soccer in high school, and then field hockey in college. I was always on the JV team and you know what, I LOVED it. No pressure to be awesome but all of the fun and benefits of athletics. My parents just dropped me off at practices and told me to have fun. I grew up in a time before "everyone was a winner" at games, so I learned what is like to get crushed at a game, but also how to grow from the experience.

My 3 year old DD seems more naturally athletic than I am, so I am thinking that she will me more first-string than I was, and I will be supportive of whatever sport she wants to be in. I'll be at a lot of games, but not all of them.

I think it's good to show her that she needs inner drive, determination, and practice, not exterior validation to play well. Plus, I think she'll remember the things we do together,  do yoga and dance to zumba videos, more than me sitting on the sidelines during a game. :) 
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THIS! Agree totally, and was my experience as well...and I think my kids will remember the things we do together (hike, ski, etc..all at intermediate levels, noone is a super rockstar, but we are all out there together) than me sitting on the sidelines. I plan to explain this to my kids when they get older, get their input on it...[/quote]

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