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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can see why they are upset - having their names on something means they signed off and agree with the content. Yet, they have not even see it. I don't think it has to do anything with them being Jewish. I can see how working in an unfamiliar but very homogenic/cultural environment would be uncomfortable for me too. [/quote]

Ok I see I was unclear. Of course they reviewed the papers.  It wasn't news that I had analyzed the data because I had already submitted an abstract, which they also reviewed. There were no issues until it was paper #2. Other person was also working on paper but taking longer, I was also involved on that.  Anyway, the next step after the abstract is...writing the paper. No I don't think I have a superiority complex.[b] I probably lack tact and am too blunt[/b]. The two colleagues have had no formal research training and had not ever published any data previously. I have - so I don't think I'm better than them - I know that I am! I mean [b]I know objectively that I spent 5 years of my life in formal research training and I have published previously[/b].

Anyway, I have worked it out. It's a petty nothing situation and it was upsetting only because it was a situation that made me feel the way I did as a kid with a neglectful verbally abusive mother. No, it isn't her fault either. It's me being overly sensitive about being treated in an unpleasant way (their behavior is obviously inappropriate and unprofessional, there's no getting around that), and I keep thinking if we just talk it out, we can be friends. But the truth is - my mother will never be the mother I wished for and I have to deal. So - I'm not going to try to understand and fix what is going on with these 2. Honestly from an academic point of view, I feel I have been fair. Other people in research would be happy to be included, they could care less about who got published first, as long as the # papers they have is increasing. I just haven't played the game of doing what women should be doing - making sure the personal relationship isn't negatively impacted - while trying to be productive and get ahead.

Am I racist? The bread IS bad during Passover! Even my Jewish colleagues agree - it's always the joke during Passover. And I am in touch with my son's paternal grandmother - she lives in Israel but I have arranged to have her spend time with her grandson when she visits her son (my ex). I might even travel to Israel one day with my son - she has invited us but probably better when he is older. That last line was just a joke - sheesh! (ok, she can be annoying at times but I deal with it).

Thanks everyone for helpful and snarky comments. [/quote]

Not only do you lack tact, are too blunt, you screwed up at work and know it but can't admit it so you are blaming it on silly things like your Jewish work enivornment, you also can't work as a member of a team, falsely believe that you are an good writer, and worse that quantity automatcially equals quality (it doesn't). Quite frankly, you suck as a co-worker and kind of as a person.

Why don't you step back and learn from this experience?  Go into work and be blunt about  your screw up and admit that you need to work on your lots of skills.[/quote]

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